A child from another mother: how to entrust the most precious to a stranger

A child from another mother: how to entrust the most precious to a stranger

Experts of”AltraVita” talk about the main criteria for choosing a surrogate mother.

What should a surrogate mother be?

Taking part in the surrogate motherhood program is a very important step. A woman who wants to become a surrogate must be psychologically mature and go for it voluntarily and consciously. Nevertheless, the psychological state of the surrogate mother changes greatly during the entire pregnancy under the influence of hormones, so it requires psychological support throughout the entire pregnancy and in the postpartum period.

In addition to psychological problems, there are controversial aspects of bioethics and medical jurisprudence related to surrogate motherhood. Although a woman intending to become a surrogate, signs a contract with genetic parents, this does not always protect them properly at the legislative level.

In relation to the surrogate mother who did not give the child to his parents, there are no sanctions. Therefore, legal assistance is very important for surrogate motherhood programs.

General requirements for surrogates:

    a healthy lifestyle, proper nutrition;

    absence of endocrine, metabolic, somatic pathologies, which lead to complications of pregnancy;

    reproductive health of a woman, allowing her to bear and give birth to a healthy baby;

    the presence of their children, but not more than two;

    no more than two kinds in the anamnesis;

    absence in the anamnesis of pathologies of pregnancy – pre-eclampsia, placental abruption, miscarriages, frozen pregnancy;

    age from 20 to 35 years;

    psychological health, responsibility and understanding of the consequences of the decision.

Psychological readiness

The surrogate motherhood program can cause psychological problems in both the surrogate mother and the genetic spouses. So, the genetic mother may feel disappointed with herself because of the inability to endure the baby, the pressure from the community, irritability due to the excessive care of the genetic father about the surrogate mother and his concern about the health of the woman.

A surrogate mother during pregnancy may have difficulty with the carrying of the baby. Under the influence of hormones in the body of a woman, the”pregnancy dominant” is triggered, which is responsible for forming the attachment of the surrogate to the child that it carries. The realization that the baby will have to be given to his genetic parents, gives rise to feelings for women in the future of the baby, uncertainty that the child will receive proper care, depression.

Duality of feelings and a constant sense of anxiety can adversely affect a child`s condition. If the surrogum is in constant stress, the hormones produced in this process narrow the blood vessels and worsen the delivery of oxygen and nutrients to the toddler, which can lead to hypoxia of the fetus.

During pregnancy, a woman can begin to treat a child as her own. There is an ambivalence of thoughts: on the one hand, the surrogate perceives the child as an integral part of itself under the action of hormones, on the other – as a result of medical manipulation, for which she will receive a reward. If this occurs on the basis of mental instability, it can lead to psycho-affective states. All these aspects require the participation of a psychologist, as they are serious enough problems.

A woman experiences great stress and an unstable state of mind in the postpartum period when she has no opportunity to take care of her child.

What is fraught with an independent search for a surrogate mother?

In the case when a couple searches for a surrogate mother on their own, it is fraught with risk:

    Incomplete information about the state of health of the surrogate mother. As a result, complications of pregnancy, childbirth, or infection of the fetus may occur.

    Lack of reliable information about the lifestyle, age, the presence of bad habits potential surrogate mother.

    Lack of information about the woman`s mental and psychological state, the probability of psycho-affective disorders in her.

    A woman can simply refuse to give up her child, and for this state, she will not take any action with regard to her.

Benefits of Using Reproduction Centers

Given the legal, psychological and medical aspects, the first thing to care for future parents is choosing a clinic with competent and highly qualified specialists.

Advantages of this approach:

    In clinics that conduct surrogate motherhood programs, women providing appropriate services are carefully examined to assess their health status.

    For the preparation of the contract, and further legal advice in the centers of ART, there are lawyers with extensive experience in the field of family law. In the clinic, the surrogate mother receives full medical care, round-the-clock monitoring of her health condition, as well as the optimal conditions for living during pregnancy.

Using the services of the ART centers, you will be reliably protected from medical and legal problems. This is a guarantee that pregnancy will pass without complications, the child will be born healthy, and with the registration of parental rights there will be no problems.

The material is prepared in consultation with specialists of the AltraVita clinic

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